In the end, it's not what you write, but how you write it.
I've lost count of how many handrolleds I've had and my room is dark with smoke but that's not why my throat is hoarse and my eyes sting. Normally, I don't read death stories, not because the subject disturbs me but because it takes one hell of a storyteller to get it right. Last time I cried so hard reading a story was for destina's 'Unmade' --which you should read too if you haven't already.
I pity those who don't read deathfics on principal, they miss one of the best stories written in this fandom: Mary Jane's 'Willemakee'.